I’m the back up friend. People only talk to me when they need someone to talk to. When they need me, they lean on me. Then they leave.
Dude, you should take that as a complement. most friendships this day and age, regardless of how strong, are put second or third or fourth behind life. I only call or hang out with James when I need someone to talk to or im lonely or bummed out or whatever. And I dont consider him my backup friend. People who I can open up to come few and far between. To have the personality that people want to come to you for support is a rare trait, and you can view it however you like. I would consider it an admirable trait. Sometimes its a blessing and a curse I guess.